"I have to figure this out"

Proverbs 11:14 Where there is no counsel the people will fall. But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

One of the traps that we fall into, especially us men, in this idea of "I have to figure this out". If you have a situation in your life where you are saying this to yourself, you are already in the wrong mindset. We are to seek the Lord and seek counsel. Find godly men, mentors, and friends in your life and ask them what they think and how they see things. Actually if you remember in Proverbs 3, we are told very specifically to "lean NOT to our own understanding". Stop trying to figure things out and seek the Lord, seek His guidance and wisdom and ask godly people, not just one but a multitude.